KILARIS, Amanda Jane (née Cooke)

In the care of her loving family, Amanda passed away at her home on July 27, 2020 aged 51 years. Dearly loved wife of Jamie.  Devoted mother of Nathan, Nicholas and Ebony.  Dearly loved daughter of Neva and Colin.  Loving sister of Rod, Jeremy and their families.


With tears we saw you suffer,

we watched you fade away.

Our hearts were slowly breaking,

as you fought so hard to stay.

You did not want to leave us,

but you did not go alone,

for part of us went with you

the day God called you home…


Funeral Notice

Due to the current imposed funeral restrictions a private service will be held.

Please be advised that a public telecast of Amanda’s funeral service will be available to view via our live web-streaming.

For access click here and select Webcast, Enter PIN 2905.  The live stream commences from 11.00 am, Friday July 31, 2020.

In lieu of flowers, donations to Sunraysia Cancer Resources would be appreciated, and can be made at

  1. So sorry for your loss, I have many happy memories of working alongside Amanda & Neva at Wentworth Hospital. Thinking of you all at this very sad time.
    God Bless

    Pam Howell

    Pamela Howell July 29, 2020
  2. So saddened to hear of Amanda’s passing. Our thoughts are with the families. From Wayne & Del Barnfield

    Wayne & Del Barnfield July 29, 2020
  3. With sincere sympathy on the loss of Amanda. From Kerryn Barnfield.

    Kerryn Barnfield July 29, 2020
  4. With deepest sympathy on the passing of Amanda. From Richelle Harding (Barnfield) & family

    Richelle Harding July 29, 2020
  5. “Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by doubling our joys, and dividing our grief.” Cicero

    You have been my perfect friend.

    Rest easy mate; I will miss you fondly and forever and ever xx

    Jo O'Rourke July 29, 2020
  6. My dear friend Amanda you will be greatly missed. Love to you all, from Anja Kelner, The Netherlands

    Anja Kelner July 29, 2020
  7. A beautiful, loving, sweet girl now resting in sleep, no more pain or suffering. We who live, cling to the blessed hope that we will see Amanda again. My deepest sympathy to the Kilaris family.
    Maria Hughes (nee Cangelis)

    Maria Hughes July 29, 2020
  8. I didn’t know Amanda all that well but we were ‘virtual’ team mates for a few years on the fabulous Carers North Team . It was soon obvious that she was one of those people who left an immediate impression – in a good way!
    Direct open gaze, a look that said ‘ I’m really listening – not just pretending to’ and a great sense of fun.
    And she must have been one of the strongest people in the world.

    John Heizer July 30, 2020
  9. To the most caring, kind, generous and gracious lady. You started out as a team mate and quickly became a special person in my world. Thankyou for the laughs, the support and the friendship over our time. Your lovely nature and beautiful smile will continue to shine in your amazing family and your memory will be forever in my heart. Rest easy AK you truly wonderful soul xx

    Nadia Train July 30, 2020
  10. So sorry to hear of Amanda’s passing. Deepest sympathy to the Cook and Kilaris families.
    Thanks Amanda for being such a good friend to my Amanda.
    Milton Taylor

    Milton Taylor July 30, 2020
  11. Dear Neva, Col family and extended family.
    We are so sad to read of Amanda’s premature passing.
    Our love and sympathy to you all.

    Pam & David Beard xx July 30, 2020
  12. Our deepest sympathy. A beautiful woman at peace. Love from Sharon and Cos Stizza

    Sharon stizza July 30, 2020
  13. My heart felt condolences to to Jamie, Nathan, Nicholas and Ebony and all the family
    Rest in peace beautiful girl
    Glenn Austin

    Glenn Austin July 30, 2020
  14. What is lovely never dies, but passes into another loveliness .
    Star- dust or sea foam, flower or winged air.

    May the beautiful memories of your Amanda live on in your hearts, and comfort you all.

    Our love and heartfelt sympathy to all of the family on the passing of a truly beautiful soul.

    Graeme and Barb Elder

    Barb Elder July 30, 2020
  15. You will be missed so very much .
    You touched so many peoples lives with your generous , beautiful , caring , thoughtful and sincere nature and spirit . You were always thinking about others .
    Your face beaming with love when talking about your family ❤️

    Now at peace

    Peta Weber

    Peta weber July 30, 2020
  16. My dearest friend Mandy. We have known each other since High School. I will remember our times together fondly…All the laughs we have had over the years. I was so very privileged to have you in my life all of this time. Deepest sympathies to the family. All my love. xxx

    Amanda Daly July 31, 2020
  17. Condolences on the passing of Amanda. A beautiful lady taken too early. Allan Butcher.

    Kaye Hanson July 31, 2020
  18. As colleagues we will always remember Amanda for her commitment, talents , professionalism but most importantly her smile , charm , kindness and the warmth in her heart she bought to the office every day!

    As friends we will always remember Amanda for her wonderful and gentle soul. A truly beautiful lady, whose love for her family, friends and community was so undeniable. Her relentless courage and strength was an inspiration to us all.
    Amanda will forever remain in our hearts.

    To Jamie, Nathan, Nicholas, Ebony, Neva & Colin, and Yiayia, extended family and friends
    Please accept our warmest condolences, our thoughts of love, peace & strength we send to you all.

    Rest in Peace Amanda.
    We miss you already.
    Your colleagues at Bendigo Health

    Bendigo Health (Carer Support Services and Community Care Services) July 31, 2020
  19. Thinking of all the family during such a difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Deepest sympathies.

    Julie Waters July 31, 2020
  20. I will treasure the memories of a special workmate and friend.
    Your infectious smile and laughter will always be remembered. My thoughts are with your family at this sad time.
    Rest Peacefully Beautiful Amanda. xx

    Marg Tegart

    Marg Tegart July 31, 2020
  21. Sincere condolences to the Kilaris family. Thinking of you all at this sad time. Love from Melissa Paver and family xx 💞💐

    Melissa Paver July 31, 2020
  22. Amanda, I am truly blessed to have had the opportunity of working alongside you. Thank you for teaching me of what it takes to be empathetic, compassionate and courageous. May you rest in peace!
    Dear Jamie, your wonderful children and family, my deepest condolences for your immense loss.

    Rob Gargano & family.

    Rob Gargano July 31, 2020
  23. Very sorry to hear of the passing of Amanda, my thoughts are with her family during this very sad time. I had the pleasure of working with Amanda at MRCC Aged and Disability Services., Amanda was a beautiful and caring woman. From Pamela McPhee

    Pamela McPhee July 31, 2020
  24. Your smile and kindness will be missed..Our condolences to your lovely family xxx

    Helen and Russell July 31, 2020
  25. Dear Jamie, Nathan, Nicholas & Ebony,
    Our deepest sympathy at this tragic time. May your happy memories together soften your pain as time passes by. With pleasant memories of Amanda. Our love, Diane & John Martin

    Diane & John Martin July 31, 2020
  26. Thank you for allowing us to be part of Amanda’s funeral, your lovely speeches and pictures show how much love you all have for Amanda.

    I am weeping along with you today on the loss of a beautiful person. Thinking of you at this sad time
    Kind regards Jeni Snadden (Stephens and family)

    Jeni Snadden July 31, 2020
  27. A beautiful soul that will be missed. Rest in Peace Amanda❤

    Stacey Hall July 31, 2020
  28. Dear Jamie. Thinking of you at this sad time. Regards Lois Treadwell ( Ian mother) and Peta xxo

    Peta Treadwell July 31, 2020
  29. Think of you all & sending love. Condolences to the family. RIP Amanda. Don & Kerrie Stizza ❤️

    Kerrie Stizza July 31, 2020
  30. I am so sorry to hear the sad news. Amanda was such a beautiful person both inside and out. She has gifted you all with so much love and beautiful memories to cherish. My thoughts are with you all. xxx
    Karyn Walker

    Karyn Walker July 31, 2020
  31. So sorry to hear of your loss. I knew Amanda back at Coomie High. Another angel taken way too soon.

    Tracy Cain (Bradley) July 31, 2020
  32. My dear friend Amanda, I will miss you greatly, but I will forever cherish the memories of work days and our coffee catch ups.
    My deepest condolences to Jamie, Nathan, Nicholas,Ebony, Neva and Colin. May you take strength in knowing how loved and adored Amanda was by so many.
    Rest easy now beautiful lady. Xx

    Amanda Clifford July 31, 2020
  33. Dear Col, Neva and Family, we were all so sorry to hear the sad news of Amanda’s passing. Please accept all our condolences at this very sad time. Love to all, Denise, Tom, Alan, Barb, Gail, and all the Family.

    Denise McMahon July 31, 2020
  34. Our hearts are with Amanda’s much loved families hearts, as you say farewell today . Love and strength. She will be remembered with much fondness. Kaye Matthews xx

    Kaye Matthews July 31, 2020
  35. My heartfelt condolences to the entire family at this very sad time. Rest In Peace Amanda.

    Sharyn Redpath July 31, 2020
  36. To Jamie, Nathan, Nicholas and Ebony Neva and Colin, Rod and Jeremy and their families thank you for trusting me and allowing me the privilege of caring for Amanda when she was scared and vulnerable. I’m so glad I met you Amanda RIP I will miss you.

    LouiseJames August 1, 2020
  37. Dear Jamie, Nathan, Nicholas, Ebony and family.
    We cannot even begin to understand what you are going through right now but would like to offer our sincere condolences to you all.
    Amanda was an exceptional, wonderful and loving person. She was so loved and adored by many, such an inspiration. May all the fond and wonderful memories of her comfort you during this sad time. Our love and thoughts are with you all.
    Lily, Harry and all the Skiadas family

    Maria Skiadas August 1, 2020